Background –
We’ve been seeing each other for the past few months, but the communication and hang outs from the past month have dropped. I’m thinking he’s lost interest in me/this, and to some degree, so have I. I find ghosting is immature and I don’t want to ghost him but I also don’t know what to say.
Response –
Ghosting is so prevalent in dating culture these days, so kudos to you for wanting to avoid ghosting in this situation. It sounds as though that both of you have lost interest, which is normal and nothing to allocate blame or hurt feelings to. It seems as though you two aren’t as compatible as you may have thought – again, a completely normal aspect in dating.
If you feel you would get the closure you need to move on from this, you can simply send a text (or call, but a text is totally fine in this case) saying:
“hey, it was really getting to know you over the past few weeks, but I don’t feel a connection to continue this. I wish you the best.”
That’s all. Keep it simple, direct, and try to keep reasons, emotions and excuses out of it…otherwise you’ll end up with a paragraph text (who wants to read that?!) that distracts from the key point: you both aren’t compatible enough to continue this.
How he responds (if he does) is completely up to him and is his responsibility, not yours. All you can do is keep your side of the street clean.
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